Where it all started
In 2016 it was really time to admit to myself that I could no longer keep it up on willpower.
That I had lost myself and was no longer happy and could enjoy it while I had everything my heart desires.
I am Monique, a down to earth born and raised West Frisian.
2016 was the year I realized that I wasn’t living the life that made me happy. I seemed to have it done that way. I had a sweet husband, 2 beautiful children, a beautiful house. Completed a university study, two titles to my name and a good job with a nice salary. You would think everything my heart desires. But nothing could be further from the truth. I was on my way to my second burnout. And that while after my first burnout, at the age of 27, I had sworn that I would never let it get that far again. And certainly not now that I was the mother of two small children.
My children kept holding up a “mirror” to me. And I can tell you that “mirror image” was not of the Monique I wanted to see. But deep down I knew that she put the finger exactly on my sore spot. I had to admit that I had not been feeling good about myself for a long time. Couldn’t hold more. That I was awake at night because I no longer knew who I actually was, what I actually liked and what I wanted to do with my life. I just didn’t know it all anymore. I was alienated from myself because I had always adapted to everything and everyone. I was not living the life I once dreamed of.
So I started to adapt myself at a very young age and especially to switch off my feelings. I adapted, did what was expected of me and wanted to do everything right. Everything from my ratio. In the nearly 40 years of my life I had built a thick wall between my head and my heart. I hardly felt anymore and did everything from my head.
And so the moment came, at the end of 2016, that I quit my job after more than 15 years working in the financial sector. I have my, against all well-intentioned advice, and have searched for myself. Because I was obliged to do that to myself. But also to my children. I didn’t want them to have to go through a deep trough at my age. It had to stop! By investing a lot in personal development, coaching and training, I broke down the thick wall between my heart and head. Now I know who I am and what I love again. Am I a much nicer Monique because I know and am myself much better. I live much more from peace and relaxation. I set my limits much better and have learned to say ‘no’. I enjoy my life. I feel comfortable in my own skin and I no longer adjust unnoticed.
I do what I really enjoy and what I am good at. Because I am and know exactly what it is like to ignore yourself, always wanting to do everything right to be loved or to keep the sweet peace, always “have to” do things and never relax. I have confidence in myself in my feelings, thoughts and actions, I enjoy and have fun and experience peace and relaxation in my life and our family. And with that also in the lives of my children.
Be your own UNIQUE self!
I learned to believe again in my self and my possibilities and the opportunities that came my way.
I regained pleasure in my life and confidence in myself.
I take responsibility for my own choices.
I know myself much better, so that I have taken control of my life back into my own hands.
I do what's right for me instead of what others expect of me.
I care much less about what others think and think
I live from trust so that I experience much more peace and relaxation.
I have fun and enjoy my life with my family.
I have become a much nicer mother and wife.
And I wish you that too!
If you knew me you would know that….
My family is my everything.
I am the proud mother of Daan and Julian.
I like speed and I don't like to dawdle.
I can be characterized as open, analytic, intuitive, loving, direct, attentive, observant, driven, decisive and professional.
I read many books at the same time.
I love notebooks.
The heat and the sun make me very happy and therefore often stay in Florida for a few weeks in winter.
I love Tony Chocolonely caramel sea salt with a Latte Machiatto.
And be more myself than ever!
And isn’t that what every mother wants?
My mission is that all ambitious mothers follow their own path and thereby put themselves first. Because that is not only good for you as a mother. But also good for your child (ren), your partner, and your environment.
And you are also a fantastic example for your children!